🐝 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago Β· 3 min. reading time Β· visibility 0 Β·

chat Contact the author

thumb_up Relevant message Comment

Don't try to micro Manage yourself

Don't try to micro Manage yourselfOnly when we love ourself<br />
can we love others, Only<br />
when we learn, we can<br />
teach and only when we<br />
give we can receive. These<br />
I've learnt are the basic<br />
principles of the universe.

Don't try to micro Manage yourself ( We  already have some who do that for us 🀣)

This buzz comes as a reflection of various buzzes on how we Manage ourselves.

Most of us have worked in big organisations and still are.

I bet there hasn't been a day gone by where you haven't beaten yourself up for the quality of your work. And if you didn't we all have that one manager who knows how to rub the thought in with the satisfaction of him adding the fuel he wanted.

We can't avoid that manager but what we can avoid is beating ourselves up as we try to micro Manage ourselves.

Recently a friend of mine on beBee said " don't beat yourself up". - Cyndi wilkins

We know this but what the mind knows it fails to realise and the heart fails to accept.

I have been more productive when I worked in a more relaxing mood than with stress.

The quality of my work more self-appreciated than if I did my work just for the heck of completing it.

Don't Micromanage yourself.

Know - Understand - Believe - Execute.Β 

The KUBE Loop gives me the basic principles to guide our work. We need to have this loop dancing around our waist to be active and to achieve.


1. Know

You know what is expected of you. If you don't we have all the tools in the world. Offline and Online to brush ourselves on the work given.

2. Understand

Understand the work given to you. If you ask someone to do that work for you what do you expect them to accomplish. That's brings in understanding. Think like your boss to understand what he expects of you.

3. Believe

We have that inner voice on one side it tells us " Your gonna nail this project" and another one that tells us " Your gonna screw up so bad". When you successfully cross the above 2 stages you become confident. Believe you can accomplish the work and that belief in yourself drowns the other negative voice. You are only person who can make you do things for you. Be it at work or your personal life. Believe in yourself. Believe you can learn. Believe you can grow. Believe you can achieve.

4.Execute

Like I once said by sitting at the driver's seat. It ain't gonna drive you home.Β 

Execute your thoughts into actions. Your actions into results. Your results into analysis. Your failures into experiences. Your experiences into lessons for self and others. Your successes into motivations.Β Β 


Update your skills and focus on your vision. Remember to love yourself and the work you do. Β Even if the balance is uneven. Β It should always be more on the loving yourself end.

Only when we love ourself can we love others. Only when we learn, we can teach and only when we give we can receive. These I've learnt are the basic principles of the universe.
Author in Source Title
9454eae2.png
Image credit - Dreamstime.com

Engagements and interactions are one of the best things I love about writing. As my learning journey continues I invite you to join me and share your experiences.

I am not perfect and I will not try to be. Being imperfect expands my opportunities to learn and grow. We must remain self-similar as my Fractal friend Milos quotes:

"We are self-similar fractals. That's why we are beautiful. The more you can define your self-similarity, more you can define yourself." - Milos Djukic


How much we know and understand ourselves is critically important, but there is something that is even more essential to living a Wholehearted life: loving ourselves. -Β Brene Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection


To read about my beBee journey visit my blog or follow me here as I share my experiences with you.

Fatima WilliamsΒ  -Β JOIN ME on beBee and start buzzing

Here's a link to my very first buzz on beBee

https://www.bebee.com/producer/@fatima-williams/my-world-of-bees-buzzes-honey

I invite you to join my hive - Why beBee to share your experiences on Why beBee ?

https://www.bebee.com/group/why-bebee

About me

I am a brand ambassador on beBee , an ardent reader and during my working hours provide HR Recruitment services to many organisations in the GCC. I love life and live to enjoy every single minute given to me. Β I love to write and do so rarely ( Winks)

Thank you for reading this article. I welcome your comments. I follow some amazing people on beBee from who I draw my inspiration to write. If you find this article very useful or interesting, please share it with other members of your Social networks.

"To share to learn" Stay awesome always !

***All content & Images Copyright 2017 ***No image shall be used without my consent apart from through this buzz***

""
thumb_up Relevant message Comment
Comments
🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #40

#43
Some do love that :)

Lyon Brave

Lyon Brave

4 years ago #39

But I love to Micromanage myself. It's better than someone else doing it lol :)

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #38

#39
Hi Louise Smith You explain the importance of the KUBE loop with a very apt example.Your contribution to this discussion is very valuable.Thank you

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #37

#38
thank you dear Ali Anani heading over to read your buzz.

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

4 years ago #36

#38
Hi Fatima I have cc'd you at Friction of Ideas buzz - which is simply a further elaboration of what I have thought here.

Louise Smith

Louise Smith

4 years ago #35

It's a really important subject KUBE loop Many people micromanage their whole life - every second and others near them and constantly 2nd guess what's going on around them and get upset and take offence (Just look at Facebook) That's an anxiety disorder ! Believing in yourself develops from childhood and if it doesn't happen naturally if we become conscious of it as adults we can learn to do it if we are motivated and persevere Look at adults who learn to speak in front of large audiences which previously terrified them And sports people who overcome setbacks, injuries and performance anxiety And business people who went broke but tried again successfully I am sure all of you know people like this ! And admire them. This ABC TV show has many such stories http://www.abc.net.au/tv/programs/australian-story/ http://www.abc.net.au/austory/

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Dears CityVP \ud83d\udc1d Manjit- I have responded in a buzz to this hugely-important buzz and discussions in a buzz that I have just uploaded. It is titled "Friction of Ideas" and you are mentioned in it. https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/friction-of-ideas I hope my buzz would add a little value to this buzz

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#34
We are all going through the cycle and learning more

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#30
That is why I called it KUBE Cycle or the BE UK, if you wish. It is a repeating cycle to start afresh always with new knowledge to learn more.

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #31

Dear Sara Jacobovici I have new word for Wednesday words Vivid has 3 meaningsπŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #30

#30
A very vivid description Ali Anani. Your contributions to this post added a different level of understanding for me. Written words are eternal and those are your comments. I remember learning about renaissance in school very vaguely. But when it's linked to reality and our lives a new form of understanding is born.

Milos Djukic

Milos Djukic

4 years ago #29

"And finally the most obscure aspect connected with statistical self-similarity which reflect the most current state of social structure in which randomly generated fractals (humans) have a chance to make a new Renaissance." - from "The Fractal Revolution in Society, Social Media First", LinkedIn long-form post, published on September 4, 2016 December 1, 2014 - September 4, 2016...- Today - Tomorrow "Renaissance" is on the horizon. Small steps are harbinger of progress. Omnipresent loneliness β†’ Creative writing β†’ Time management β†’ Fractals Community and Cooperation β†’ Tornado of thoughts β†’ Future society… An article never dies. Written words are eternal.

Milos Djukic

Milos Djukic

4 years ago #28

cc. John White, MBA

Milos Djukic

Milos Djukic

4 years ago #27

#30
Thanks for the clarification CityVP \ud83d\udc1d Manjit. Yes, it was about Lorenz attractor, kind of an infinite periodic process. "There are great rewards as a results of initial conditions (the ”Butterfly Effect”) and repeated self-discovery of ubiquitous chaos. In this special case, the initial conditions are faith, knowledge and willingness to follow our true self-similar nature." - from "The Secret Human Qualities That Truly Matter", LinkedIn long-form post, published on December 1, 2014 "Only carefully written words should cause a growing clamor (determined chaos), innovation and an inevitable progress. All unpredictable and chaotic C - butterflies (,like FFF )) behave similarly. There are plenty of them and they are self-similar, although they have different colors and shapes." - from "You Are a Social Leader? The Butterfly Effect", LinkedIn long-form post, published on June 30, 2015 Ian Stewart from the Mathematics Institute, University of Warwick, UK.wrote a short popular text about Lorenz curve in the Nature journal, 31 August 2000, pp 949 as part of an article titled "The Lorenz Attractor Exists". Link: http://www.math.wm.edu/~sday/tucker_nature.pdf "Butterfly Symbolism and Meaning" by Regina Cutter Edwards on gardenswithwings.com: http://www.gardenswithwings.com/butterfly-stories/butterfly-symbolism.html

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

4 years ago #26

#27
Think of it like this, without defining knowing at the beginning therefore knowing that knowing, you begin with a belief, create understanding through practice (execution), check that understanding (scientific method) and what emerges is new knowing and once you have this new knowing you action or act is bringing it into use - and now you plan with a new belief which will eventually process through and emerge a new knowing. That is why I would not start with knowing because examining the future through the old, whereas the cycle is about the fragrance and the wonder of something new - knowing as an emergence. That is the way of Milos - it is not the butterfly flaps but the Lorenz curve emerges in a pattern that looks like a butterfly. Put it simply the Deming Cycle or also called the Shewart Cycle (Plan Do Check Act) is about the same emergence which Milos Djukic addresses in his buzzes.

Milos Djukic

Milos Djukic

4 years ago #25

#22
Thank you Tausif Mundrawala.

Milos Djukic

Milos Djukic

4 years ago #24

FFF great one again :) Kudos .

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #23

#26
I've read Deming's work but thank you for introducing me to Walter. PDCA or BE UK Believe Execute Understand and Know ? Yes I love it you add knowledge with understanding through your comments. I'm going to read this again.☺ Thank you CityVP \ud83d\udc1d Manjit

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

4 years ago #22

First of all let us play the song relevant to this buzz : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hWyAduUq2t4 ( it is good to have Pavarotti joining George Benson in this song to celebrate seeing Vincenzo De Florio returning to beBee). When it comes to KUBE - I like to compare it to PLAN-DO-CHECK-ACT originally conceived by Walter Shewart and then later adopted by the W. Edward Deming. In the case of PLAN, this is actually akin to believe because you will not plan anything that you did not believe in and if we are planning that we do not believe in, then we are following orders in work that is holding us hostage - so the question of doing what we believe accompanies the degree of autonomy and discretion that we have. Where we are in an environment where we are not able to question the plan, there we find dictatorship and the cage that imprisons the potential of people With DO - it is executive - because until we engage and see how things work, we are left solely in the world of academics or who create ideas but never test them in the field of human existence. This is the difference between invention and innovation. At CHECK - the understanding takes shape between what believed was possible and what execution revealed, and also what it affected. We may have made a profit but did our actions leave the rest of the organization weaker. This is understanding. Finally ACT is acting upon what we now know - which is the actual learning from checking our actions - and this knowing is called continuous improvement - and then we renew our belief and start again BEUK - it is not beBEE or KUBE but it is BE UK.

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #21

#22
I love Robert Frost. He is my favourite poet. Reading and writing moves our mind in various directions.Thanks Tausif.

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #20

#21
Thank you Preston \ud83d\udc1d Vander Ven Yes the base would be Believe without it nothing would give self-satisfaction. The quote "If you think you can do a thing or think you can't do a thing, you're right." - Henry Ford reminds me of belief again. We need to believe in ourself and everything else will fall in place.

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #19

#21
Thank you Preston \ud83d\udc1d Vander Ven Yes the base would be Believe without it nothing would be self-satisfaction. The quote "If you think you can do a thing or think you can't do a thing, you're right." - Henry Ford reminds me of belief again. We need to believe in ourself and everything else will fall in place.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#19
Kube sounds close to Cupid and I am afraid his arrow would bleed my heart if I steal your idea . May be soon I refer to it in a buzz.

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #17

#13
Ali Anani I've added the KUBE loop to the buzz. Thanks for making up the acronym from the buzz. You can register it if you would like :) I can't afford to LOL

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #16

#16
Thank you my dear Donna-Luisa Eversley #Stayawesome

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #15

#13
#1 Robert Cormack Thank you for the suggestion. I almost forgot to thank you. It's fixed :) When we stop introspecting or editing ourselves, we forget that anything and everything can be improved - This is 100% true and that's when we lose focus and as you beautifully quote "stop editing ourself" . Let's keep editing ourselves onward and upward.

Lisa Gallagher

Lisa Gallagher

4 years ago #14

#10
True words :))

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

The Dancing KUBE Loop- you should register this

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #12

#9
Yes Gert \ud83d\udc1d Scholtz I agree it is an ongoing loop of improving performance and we need factors these for good attitude to work and to life. Thank you.

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #11

#8
The KUBE Loop - that sounds catchy. Thank you Ali Anani we need to have this loop dancing around our waist to be action :) You always give me something to take away from your comment. Thank you :)

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #10

#7
Thank you Lisa \ud83d\udc1d Gallagher If we don't love ourselves no one else will. This is a universal truth and many fail to realise it.

Gert Scholtz

Gert Scholtz

4 years ago #9

This is a succinct piece on a good attitude to work (and to life!). If I can add something it would be that Know, Understand, Believe and Execute are often not linear and sequential. It is an ongoing loop of improving performance. Thanks for a very good post Fatima.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Great guiding principles dear and this buzz a great and simple loop to apply in our lives. Know- Understand- Believe- Execute ( The KUBE Loop). It is not only a poetic loop, but is also a great reminder of the basic principle that may guide our work. BTW_ You have the first three elements of the loop in bold letters, but not the 4th (Execute). I suggest you make it in bold as well. Great read.

Lisa Gallagher

Lisa Gallagher

4 years ago #7

These are wonderful tips . If we don't love ourselves no one else will and it shows. Balance sure is key and it can be achieved. There are cases it can't be and that's when it's time to listen to your inner voice and possibly move on :))

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

#2
Cyndi wilkins The universe has different ways of talking to us. Have a great weekahead.

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

#1
Thank you Robert Cormack yes Introspection forces us to better.

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

#3
Thank you

David B. Grinberg

David B. Grinberg

4 years ago #3

Thanks for the awesome advice, Fatima. Very nice buzz!

Cyndi wilkins

Cyndi wilkins

4 years ago #2

Well, I certainly have to admit dear ...I find it challenging to take my own advice even still...But that is the self-fulfilling prophecy at work here in the wonderful universe...My motto..."You gotta live it to give it!" Thanks for the mention;-)

Robert Cormack

Robert Cormack

4 years ago #1

Interesting thoughts, . We all spend a lot of time on introspection, wondering if what we do is good enough. In some respects, it's healthy. It forces us to do better. That's not a bad thing. When we stop introspecting or editing ourselves, we forget that anything and everything can be improved. One tiny note (not a big deal). If you're using a quote graphic, make sure the grammar is right: "Only when we love ourself can we love other's" No possessive on "others." Thanks for the post.

More articles from 🐝 Fatima G. Williams

View blog