๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

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Is suicide the only way? You are worth more than what the system requires of you!

Is suicide the only way? You are worth more than what the system requires of you!Say #NOSuicide

You are worth more

Than what the system requires of you
Your life is precious.
You deserve the world.
You deserve to live and shine brightly.


I speak not for myself but for those
without voice... those who have fought
for their rights... their right to live in
peace, their right to be treated with
dignity, their right to equality of
opportunity, their right to be educated.

AT

AZQUOTES


#NEET a money-making scam or does it really benefit students?ย 

I've been reading and seeing how #NEET will actually help students, but somehow inspite of the all that the AIMC (All India Medical Committee) says, it's to bring uniformity to education etc etc, I am missing the crux of it all.

What is education for? What are these examinations for? What are they preparing the future generation for?

I am very upset to hear that an educated, intelligent girl - a school topper (1176/1200) chose to take her life.ย 

She should have seen/known/told that she was far more talented than the system required her to be.ย 

Whose fault is that? #AnitaCommitsSuicide

A 17 -year-old student from Tamil Nadu who asked the Supreme Court not to insist on a common entrance exam for medical colleges, committed suicide on Friday, after she did not get admission to a medical college.

The mentioned exam is supposedly not based on the same syllabus/main language the girl studied, the government had promised to revoke the exams last year. False hope. She was not made aware off, to make the necessary preparations in advance this year. ย Coming from a daily wage labourer's family, she couldn't afford future preparation costs. She was not prepared for what life threw at her. She lost her life to the battle with education.


Why does theย education system and examinations give insecurity to students, rather than build their confidence to go out there and do it.

The resilience to face these obstacles, to keep trying. Shouldn't that be the foundation?


We cannot change the system, we can only try but what we can do is definitely change the way the system treats us.ย 

"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedomsโ€”to choose oneโ€™s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose oneโ€™s own way. When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves."- Victor Frankl

We can choose not to be denied or learn different methods of denial and alert other students about the same.

Teachers need to prepare their students for whats out there. Teach them resilience.

The needless death of this young, talented girl leaves me numb.

An incompetent system claimed the life of a young girl and what I feel sad about is Anita's hopes were pinned only on expressing herself through that exam.

She had the courage to go all the way to court to fight not to have this exam conducted, why couldn't she figure out a way, to pass the exam again, a way to get educational/financial aid required for her to nail that exam?ย 

She should have known there are different ways to get to her goals in life. She needed encouragement, patience and coaching of how important the value of life is. All which education failed to mould her with?

I know life is made hard for us by the money-making evil doers of this world. But there is only so much we can do, as we stand and fight together.ย 

Fight for the upliftment of our society, fight for justice and equality. Lead by example if you wish to see a change.

Suicide is not the answer to the battles life throws at us.

My condolences to Anita's family and encouragement and support goes out to all students to be brave and stand up.ย 

Even if you fail, dust yourself up, study again and you will succeed.

Remember you are worth more than it all.

Your life is precious.ย You deserve the world.ย You deserve to live and shine brightly.

So lets support each other and stand up for each other!


โ€œThe best thing a human being can do is to help another human being know more.โ€ - Charlie Munger
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Has NEET made things UGLY
for poor students who are
brilliant in school?

#WAKEUPINDIA


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Lisa Gallagher

Lisa Gallagher

4 years ago #21

Such a sad story. It's very sad to think she probably could have met her dream at some point but became very disillusioned after the courts said, no. We do need to be there for everyone (as we can). Too many tragic stories of suicides and I think many reach a point that they feel they can't 'reach out' to others. I thank Lance \ud83d\udc1d Scoular

Milos Djukic

Milos Djukic

4 years ago #20

Everyone is responsible, maybe you have bring someone to the end or rescue him. Fractals forever.

Milos Djukic

Milos Djukic

4 years ago #19

#
FFF...

Lance ๐Ÿ Scoular

Lance ๐Ÿ Scoular

4 years ago #18

๐Ÿ‘ฅed๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐Ÿค๐Ÿณ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿšฒ

Lance ๐Ÿ Scoular

Lance ๐Ÿ Scoular

4 years ago #17

Tomorrow is R U OK? DAY - for Suicide Prevention - in Australia https://www.ruok.org.au This is my beBee Post from last year: Zemblanity + Family and the Word We Fear To Speak http://dld.bz/ffW5T

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#17
love this "No matter what happens, as long as I keep getting up and putting my best foot forward, I will always be on the right path."

Cyndi wilkins

Cyndi wilkins

4 years ago #15

#16
I can certainly vouch for that ...I've been 'Humpty Dumpty' many times throughout my life and learned the only one who could put me back together again is ME...People will come and go...some will love and support you, some will hurt you and never give a hoot that they've done so... Reminds me of that quote from Maya Angelou..."People will forget what you've said, and even forget what you did...but they will never forget how you made them feel." So the very best thing we all can do as parents is to teach our children to always be humble and kind...even in the face of being mistreated...That is not to say that you roll over and allow yourself to be abused, quite the contrary...It is an extraordinary show of strength to be able to look adversity in the eye and say, "No matter what happens, as long as I keep getting up and putting my best foot forward, I will always be on the right path."

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#15
Thank you Cyndi wilkins You are so right about parents stepping up in this. "So teach your children how to win for sure". Parents pamper their children so much that they give them the world. Teach them how to win and to lose as well, show them how it feels to sacrifice our favorite things for others, share with them not only your successes but your mistakes and failures. Stop portraying yourself as the perfect parent, because we all fell down many times before we learnt to walk.

Cyndi wilkins

Cyndi wilkins

4 years ago #13

We can start with our own children...by teaching them acceptance of their circumstances...The world can be a very cruel place, so as parents we tend to focus on how to teach our children how to be successful...grab the brass ring so to speak. But not many of us will discuss the possibility of failure...what happens when we fail...and we will...at some point or another we ALL do. That is how we learn...Growth is painful...and in those difficulties we are made aware of just how strong we really are when we can rise up to the challenge of being knocked on our ass...So teach your children how to win for sure...but also how to lose gracefully...Because sure as shit tomorrow will bring you another opportunity to knock one out of the park;-) My deepest condolences to the soul who takes their own life...but rest assured... you will be given another chance at bat...

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#11
We can start with our own nephews and neices. College students we meet etx etx

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#9
It kind a makes sense. But since it's working for some every one keeps bragging about it. It Will be much better if the focus is on authenticity. And yes tthe change should start with me.

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#10
You name rightly says about you Lyon.Brave is what you are. Not everyone gets a silver spoon, yes the rich get richer and the poor can get richer. But we need to change the system for this to happen. It's starts of with you and me showing everyone how we beat the odds. How We stood up for ourselves. #Stayawesomealways

Lyon Brave

Lyon Brave

4 years ago #9

i do not know Fatima. I do not want to make judgememts about the girls suicide but of she took her own life because she did poor on am exam or thought ahe could not go to medical school that was still a personal decision. I have been rejected from a lot and i am still here. Many people are rejected and beat up bu life an still here. We have to have standards. Perhaps a lot od the things i was rejected from i really was not right for or the best choice. you hav to have thick skin for this world and be willing to give up on a dream to go find jew one.

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

4 years ago #8

#6
But we can change the system, it starts off with a few voices and over many years where justice or truth cannot be beaten down, it scales to a tipping point, and then the system changes. Why do I oppose words like "successful personal branding" and "winning online presence"? These are words that are used here at beBee and they set the very conditioning of mindset which does not embrace failure. When Anita failed, her life failed and the world lost a brilliant person. The world did not lose a personal brand nor did the world lose a winning online presence, the world lost one more unit of humanity consumed by image makers and people who are not thinking that the image they sell contributes to a world where failure is feared. The value of awareness here is if it saves the life of one human being, so we should be talking about what leads people to suicide but the system is not that which is beyond us, the system is us - and if we don't believe that, then one day, someone who we love and could never imagine could end their lives, will do so. Then it is too late to know what the system was and how even the tiniest effort on our part to change it, is a contribution to the transformation of the whole.

Devesh ๐Ÿ Bhatt

Devesh ๐Ÿ Bhatt

4 years ago #7

#6
drops pervade the sands. There is no other option. Else the sand consumes in a way that one cannot come out.

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#2
You and I know how many youngsters like you have fought against all the odds and succeeded. How many became successful entrepreneurs, tech geeks, entrepreneurs. The same year Mark began facebook, I was in high school. If we had access to internet then in India like I did now, even I could have started something.The problem is I was trained only to be an employee for organisations and not to be a leader or an entrepreneur. We need show them that everyone is special, talented and unique. I want to start with changing the negative mentality built in people, let them know that their lives are lives as well. That they deserve to be valued and I'll start with you to spread the message.

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#1
#3 The problem is the sand of injustice makes these drops of awareness evaporate. We are like dog barking at the rains. I just want youngsters to understand that educational degrees are just to enable us to brush up and enhance our interests. It should not be, the only weapon of survival. We can't change the system, we need to start with the people in the system.

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#4
Pascal Derrien I'm sure somewhere in those books she must have learnt about the importance of her life. I mean, she wanted to be a doctor but the identity given to her by the media and all the social paparazzi, must have made a sinker deeper than we should would have. We give so much importance to image we create of ourselves that we forget ourselves in the process.

Pascal Derrien

Pascal Derrien

4 years ago #3

Profoundly disturbing isn't it ? Pedestal worshiping gone wrong, there is more to life that social status and all that jazz a collective fiasco with a dramatic ending :-(

Devesh ๐Ÿ Bhatt

Devesh ๐Ÿ Bhatt

4 years ago #2

The system, the frustration, the hopelessness, it is how our society is. Society is willing to drop morality at any given turn and we glorify the worst kind to allow us room to be our worst selves. It is not practical to save money on education and pay those savings as a bribe for a job/score or degree. But we do it. It is not practical to save money on what could be invested on a child and then spend it as a bribe for dowry or assets that amplify social status. Thereby, those without savings due to poverty or due to informed spending on their child have no means. I believe that if the good commit suicide, it will only get worse. Why is it that very few feel the guilt of doing something wrong and the good feel the shame of being helpless? Just like the RTI empowered us, i think we need a few more reforms like Perjury as a crime coupled with the right to silence. People will prefer silence over lies... lies shall be punishable. It reduces the burden of lies across our system.. hence we do not seek ulterior motives so shamelessly. Children, adolescents etc ought to be declared as the first citizens of India, safeguarding their rights should be the foremost duty of all. Our inefficient system would exploit this too, but the society would eventually be habituated to reduce such injustice to children, adolescents (including students) It feels so good to read something socially relevant cropping up regularly on social media. Drop by drop, awareness would eventually lead to an awakening

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

4 years ago #1

We wrap our identity in success and then when it is ripped from us, the hole is so deep that it is unfortunate that some people see such identity rupture as being too much to live with. Anita's image got ripped from her, as it will in countless other situations where students who see their dream disappear. For sure not having the opportunity to study a specific path does not feel like the end of the world, but I even knew a friend who surprised me with his suicide attempt when he failed his exams. We don't counter this assault on our identity, we simply placate it by accepting certain prejudices about image. It is good to point out to young people that nothing is end-of-the-world unless thinking makes it so. Yet that means we must be aware of that conditioning and who shapes that conditioning. In most cases a suicide attempt is a cry for help and in these cases most attempts do not have the objective of ending their life, but drawing attention to a troubled moment - which by itself shows how shitty it is that we think it's OK to live in image based society. However in a situation like Anita, there is no way to predict that outcome and when it happens is the most shocking of all, because usually there are no accompanying signs of depression, the image and self-worth is shattered and the shock of that leads to an irreversible choice. For sure we don't want people to make these tragic choices but this kind of finality has no tell-tale signs - we are often caught off-guard by the news. With deep depression there is no cry for help either, people like Kurt Cobain and David Foster Wallace were in such mental anguish with their depression, that they wanted to end their own lives. Even though the people around them knew of this anguish, they were powerless to prevent it. It is a very sad situation.

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