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My Diary - A Note to myself dated 30th January 2008


There is nothing you cannot do !

Nothing is above its reach.


My Diary - A Note to myself dated 30th January 2008

My Diary - A Note to myself dated 30th January 2008


In life I've noticed that expectations bring disappointments.

These disappointments stand as an obstacle in our life's journey.The question is

Can a man live without expectations ??


Have you ever tried to look at your inner-self and ask

聽What lead to the disappointment ?


When you begin to reason what happened you will notice that infact

It wasn't a disappointment at all , But an essential factor for Success in Life !


The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure,Instead of having pain and pleasure use you.

If you do that, you're in control of your life, if you don't - Life controls you.

Anthony Robbins





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馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

5 years ago #28

#40
Thank you Mohammad Azam Khan Yes allowing/acceptance plays a very major role. A lovely comment thank you for the kind words.

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

5 years ago #27

Oh I just love how this buzz has blossomed into that nectar filled insightful comments. I have to make an out of the comments box on this one. "Our own expectations of others may often conflict with their expectations - Awesome insight dear Irene Hackett just love the way your mind transforms those beautiful thoughts into words.

Ali 馃悵 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#34
I recall what you wrote to me . One thing I assure you with. I shall never have "reduced expectations" for you; and as this comment reflects everyday my expectations become fulfilled by you. "Our own expectations of others may often conflict with their expectations"- fantastic insights you have my friend.

Ali 馃悵 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#34
I recall what you wrote to me . One thing I assure you with. I shall never have "reduced expectations" for you; and as this comment reflects everyday my expectations become fulfilled by you. "Our own expectations of others may often conflict with their expectations"- fantastic insights you have my friend.

Ali 馃悵 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#31
Dear Irene Hackett would read your comment and I know she shall be satisfied. Sara talks about the need for a breathing period (space) always. She is more capable than I in appreciating your comment. As for me, I labeled you as a super thinking sister

Ali 馃悵 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

but you didn't with such poetic beauty. Amazing you are- I meant did it dear Irene Hackett

Ali 馃悵 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#26
I am honored by your sharing dear Irene Hackett

Ali 馃悵 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#25
I am proud to have Irene Hackett as a super sister. What a great comment that you wrote. I am deep in its honey. "As we learn to observe the fleeting nature of our thoughts and emotions, our internal state of being becomes less dependent on external conditions"...this is powerful and even though not easy to express, but you didn't with such poetic beauty. Amazing you are.

Ali 馃悵 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#24
dear Fatima Williams, and not to forget your splendid comments as well. I am happy you found my presentation relevant as much happy I am to find out how thorough you all are. By the way I enjoyed your term expectations on expectations and you are very correct. The second derivative of expectation and this is something to ponder on

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

5 years ago #19

The meaning we invest in the expectation influences whether or not we get disappointed. Being in the state of allowing is the awareness of what is, and allowing it to be, and what isn't, and allowing it not to be. From within this state, we can then imagine where the next step would take us out of this expectation and outcome towards another. This is such beautiful writing Sara Jacobovici that I am so enthralled by " The state of allowing" and " The state of awareness". Often the meaning we put into the expectation plays a major role and influences us but to sister it with awareness is a beauty.Thank you for stopping by and enriching this buzz with sweet nectar. Dr Ali links expectations to changes and the outcome of dissatisfaction is based on the level of expectations we have. Awesome presentation on expectations. My expectations on expectations have turned over a new leaf now and I now predict my learning journey on learning not success/expectations as my super beBee CityVP Manjit does.

Ali 馃悵 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Dear ladies, Fatima Williams- I quoted this lovely post and the comment of Sara in my buzz of today: https://www.bebee.com/@ali-anani I appreciate your great inspiration

Sara Jacobovici

Sara Jacobovici

5 years ago #17

#20
I, too, wish you were able to explain more to me. I continue to learn though from all your works. Thank you Ali Anani.

Ali 馃悵 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#19
I am writing a buzz on human cracking because of social media. Your comment dear Sara Jacobovici with the idea of duality stress leading to cracking. This is inspired from your comment and this segment in particular "And as in all experiences, there is the duality of the "thinking" (cognitive/rational) aspect of expectation and the feeling/emotional aspect". Only through awareness we may overcome this stress and its subsequent cracking.

Ali 馃悵 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#19
Amazing you are dear Sara Jacobovici with your depth of thinking. I am totally absorbed by your response. I wrote a presentation titled Inflation of Expectations http://www.slideshare.net/hudali15/inflation-of-expectations Your comment would have enriched the presentation tremendously had I read included it in the presentation. I may add that your comment explains many of the phenomena experienced in the stock markets. I wish I were sitting next to you to explain more your comment. I do hope you write a detailed buzz on it. It is hugely an enriching comment.

Sara Jacobovici

Sara Jacobovici

5 years ago #14

#14
#17 #18 Ladies Fatima Williams, I envy your energy and tireless dynamic exchange of ideas. Thank you Dr. Ali for alerting me to this very interesting discussion. From my perspective, expectation is all times; past, present and future. The present and future has been touched upon but (unless I missed it) the past has not been given its full value. We often base our expectation on something we either experienced or heard about or imagine from what we have heard. And as in all experiences, there is the duality of the "thinking" (cognitive/rational) aspect of expectation and the feeling/emotional aspect. Disappointment can only come from the feeling/emotional aspect and that is connected to that past piece or preconceived outcome. On top of that is the meaning we invest in the expectation that influences whether or not we get disappointed. That, too, stems from the past. In the triad of; "acceptance, Surrender. Non-resistance", I would integrate the three and call it "allowing". Being in the state of allowing is the awareness of what is, and allowing it to be, and what isn't, and allowing it not to be. From within this state, we can then imagine where the next step would take us out of this expectation and outcome towards another. Reminds me of a past discussion of "flow".

Ali 馃悵 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

" What we learn is: acceptance, Surrender , Non-resistance." This triad is bringing about a lot of food for thought. I agree with you dear Fatima Williams would also be interested.

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

5 years ago #12

#15
Ali Anani This statement gives me a compact answer on my question "Expectation is the gap between what we have today and what we aspire to have Tomorrow. It is challenging not to make the gap huge so that it may be unable to bridge it ( Causing disappointments ) , or not to enjoy the present. It sure is a very delicate balance . I am so happy you took some time to comment here because these comments to me are a gem that nourishes my mind. Thank you :)

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

5 years ago #11

#14
Irene Hackett I love what you said especially about " What we learn is: acceptance, Surrender , Non-resistance." This triad is bringing about alot of food for thought. Thanks sweets for the beautiful comment.

Ali 馃悵 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

I am glad I stopped to enjoy the smell of the flowers of this buzz dear Fatima Williams. Expectation is the gap between what we have today and what we aspire to have omorrow. It is challenging not to make the gap huge so that it may may us unable to bridge it, or not to enjoy the present. We should be to disappointments as challenges that we happily face. It is a delicate balance. I might write a buzz based on this buzz soon. This buzz warrants deep discussions.

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

5 years ago #9

#7
Thaank you CityVP Manjit These words are just ringing in my head. "Appreciation can be challenging, it is not positive thinking, it is appreciation i.e. the truth of joy, not the fallacy of success." Wise words !

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

5 years ago #8

#9
Thank you Franci Eugenia Hoffman Yes I agree with you on goal setting it's inevitable and using the experience as a learning tool.

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

5 years ago #7

#8
Thank you dear Irene Hackett for such warm words so whats your thoughts on a life without expectations.Do you think it's even possible?

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

5 years ago #6

Who are we proving this success to? Is my thoughts too and that's why my learning is so interesting. I agree when you say predict our learning journey on learning not success. Thank you for your intriguing comment with you my learning just begins.

Franci 馃悵Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador

#4
I think of expectations as goals. If achieve goals that I have set for myself, I feel I have more control in my life. If I don't achieve my goal then I use the experience as a learning tool. I step back and reassess. I try to look at everything with a great deal of logic. Most of the time it works. Beautifully written Fatima and thank you for tagging me Donna-Luisa.

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

5 years ago #4

Dear Fatima, when you write a diary entry in 2008, that in itself are sowing the seeds for the fruits that may appear even a decade later. Each time we write we are sowing some kind of seed that shapes the nature of fruit. Success is the wrong measure in that journey because if we asked ourselves the wrong questions to begin with, we will be successful in outcomes, but there could have been richer outcomes if the stage was set differently and the mental furniture readjusted. Meditate on these words NOTHING CANNOT DISAPPOINTMENTS OBSTACLE WITHOUT Those are just some of the seeds just in the expression of a diary note in 2008. Yes one can get a successful outcome and rationalize this "success in life". Any objective that is met is a success. Do you begin to see why I state that success is the wrong measure. What is the right measure? Change the words you write in a diary and then you plant a different fruit. That fruit will be successful also but you would enjoy the journey. I love my learning journey because I am predicated on learning not success. I see the word success as an insanity and a mythology. Who are we proving this success to? Yes, but you will still be asking in the pursuit of success what is the right measure? Appreciation is not a measure, it is a learning. Appreciation can be challenging, it is not positive thinking, it is appreciation i.e. the truth of joy, not the fallacy of success.

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

5 years ago #3

That's the same thought that going on in my head and I still am trying see if we can ever achieve, to live a life without expectations. I guess only a monk or great guru can do that but I may be wrong. I invite if may my dears Mr CityVP Manjit to give their intriguing thoughts about this

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

5 years ago #2

Thank you @Donna-Luisa Eversley 鉁ㄢ湪鉁ㄢ湪鉁ㄢ湪鉁ㄢ湪 Can we live without expectations in order not to have to experience that pain ?

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

5 years ago #1

Thank you Donna-Luisa Eversley 鉁ㄢ湪鉁ㄢ湪鉁ㄢ湪鉁ㄢ湪

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