馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

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The Fear of falling in love again!


The fear of falling in love again.

The Fear of falling in love again!聽PC : Fatima Williams聽

Who doesn't want to be in love.

Someone who can treat you like your their sunshine and their moonlight. Someone whom we confide to or look upto in times of turbulence. Someone whom we can share all our happiness with. Someone who isn't in the way but the motivation or pathway to your goals.

It doesn't have to be a person ! Did you know that ?

But at the end of the day, we all need a partner who can be everything ! The things we can actually find individually in places, people or things.

People get hurt or rather allowed themselves to be put in a situation blinded by the fact that it is just enough for two people to be in love and everything else will fall in place.

It doesn't work that way !

Love isn't Enough ! Anyone care to agree or disagree with me.

Would love to hear your thoughts on this.

I Dedicate the below poem to all lover's and couples out there !聽

Say this to your Partner and Ask them to say it back. Cause it's not a one way street and we need two hands to clap to make a sound.

To be your sunshine
To be your moonlight
To be your shooting star
To see you make wishes come true
To be a rising star
To be your best friend
To be everything
To bring you Happiness !聽Fatima Williams

Join me on beBee and start buzzing

Life is meant to be lived
So Live Love and Share on beBee Fatima Williams聽

beBee to me is my breakfast ; lunch and supper !

Here's a link to my very first buzz on beBee

https://www.bebee.com/producer/@fatima-williams/my-world-of-bees-buzzes-honey

I also invite you to join my hive聽
Hive Why beBee on beBee and share your love for beBee
https://www.bebee.com/group/why-bebee

About me

I am a person who loves life and lives to enjoy every single minute given to me. I love to write and have got an opportunity to do so now rarely ( Winks)

Thank you for reading this article. I welcome your comments. I follow some amazing people here, from who I draw my inspiration to write. If you find this article very useful, please share it with other members of your beBee / Social networks. "To share to learn" #beBee #beBeesforever


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馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #18

Thanks for the share dear Donna-Luisa Eversley

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #17

#16
Thank you Yes we must go the extra mile. I don't fear loneliness though but I fear the pain that's after a breakup. Thank you for taking the time to read. I will keep buzzing 鈽吼煠

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #16

#13
I remember that Buzz very much Ali Anani and did not comment at that time because what how I felt about love at that time. And there were some great comments on that buzz.I must revisit and read that. A mothers love and a brother/sister love cannot be compared to love between two people. I seemed to have loved the person more than everything else at one time and then forgot that I was leaving my world behind. So I think as Lisa very beautifully says "to have our individuality, space and be with a person who has similar needs and who can love me unconditionally. I think I may have just found him. And pretty excited and scared at the same time.

David B. Grinberg

David B. Grinberg

4 years ago #15

Nice buzz Fatima. I am of the persuasion that true love can indeed conquer all. But true love is also a two way street, which is absolutely essential for a long-term relationship to last and blossom. Each person must go the extra mile for the other and put the other person above themselves. Moreover, the flipside of the fear to fall in love again, is the fear of being alone for the rest of your life. I think the former overrides the latter. Thanks for a good read and keep buzzing in 2017 馃檹馃憦馃悵馃悵鉁岋笍锔

Lyon Brave

Lyon Brave

4 years ago #14

legit

Lisa Gallagher

Lisa Gallagher

4 years ago #13

#12
you better get started Dean. Ok, just teasing... couldn't resist. Actually, very nice item on your bucket list. That has been on mine for years. Love my hubbie but he's not a hands on the beach kind of guy... that's OK, I love walking alone. Fatima Williams, I think we all crave love and need it but the person we love should not be our entire existence. I find it healthy to have our individuality, space and be with a person who has similar needs. I don't want a puppy following me around but I am thankful I have a person who seems to love me unconditionally and respects my space as I do his too. Your poem above is beautiful, not sure I could get my husband to repeat that. Thanks, I find this topic so important. Sometimes people can be together so long they may take each other for granted, reminders are good too. Let your brain guide you and then your heart will melt and so will 'his.'

Ali 馃悵 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

This is a challenging post dearFatima Williams. You asked "Love isn't Enough ! Anyone care to agree or disagree with me". You remind me of my own buzz on "I Love You- What Does it Mean"? https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/i-love-you-what-does-it-mean This buzz generated 168 comments. Ideas on the meaning of love showed a wide spread. So, for me to answer your challenging question I need first to know what love means to you. Love without action isn't love. To love is to give willingly. A mother who loves her kid is willing to sacrifice and do all it can for the kid. Does love have a hierarchy of different levels? If so, only the top level is genuine love. I shared your buzz and joined your hive. I end by saying I love your writing. I am acting on my love as you can see.

Dean Owen

Dean Owen

4 years ago #11

Your picture captures the 10th item on my bucket list, and that is to walk on a beach holding hands with someone I love when I am old and grey....

Devesh 馃悵 Bhatt

Devesh 馃悵 Bhatt

4 years ago #10

#10
well you already know my "opinion". Explanations are vital, I just hope you are not giving one to me for " war and peace" :)

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #9

#8
I don't get offended easily Dev. I haven't had time to read your posts or interact so I am yet to know you here on beBee. But we are all here for one reason to learn from other's experience and to share our own. And that's why I share what I feel and would like to know what others here feel about a particular idea, thought or experience. Just because I say something it's doesn't mean the other person would do it. It is Because Gandhi and other great leaders showed us all that wars can be won peacefully, there is some peace left in the world.Hence explanation is vital. For me to change opinions I need to know yours. Hence I explain, give, receive and share :) That's just me 鈽 and Thank you for being curious.

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #8

#7
I am a romantic CityVP Manjit. I completely agree with the arranged marriage pathway. I have seen and had conversations with most of the older generation and a few of my own friends happily married. But I have also seen my parents and some of my friends parents that had this love which is so magical I see there is magic both ways but I'm sure both are scary if the wrong spell is cast ! Thank you for a thought provoking comment.

Devesh 馃悵 Bhatt

Devesh 馃悵 Bhatt

4 years ago #7

Mutual6 Good for you. You don't owe me an explanation, we haven't connected beyond profiles. Still I will read all that you share :) simply because it is here to read. I am curious . Why reinforce with statements that you love those around you, those you love already know, they have moved ahead to the mutual experience. Fear is normal, it happens to everyone, but why does it surface again and again? Is it insecurity linked with love? Why must you explain the joy of giving? You have given a lot, those who know just know. Those who take you for granted can't be changed without am affirmation of self. I hope you don't get offended, I'm expressing what I believe. Another thought, why be at the mercy of opinion? Opinions can be changed instantly, you have all the means to do it. Change opinions and teach people to look beyond their shallow view of you, this is rooted in how you look at yourself

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

4 years ago #6

Would you rather have unrequited love, love that is never reciprocated or never spoken as love to your beloved? This is a legitimate choice. One either goes all in or they don't. There are people in this world who did not and I am one of them. That kind of hurt is softened by reason and my reason was simple - not basing my life around a romantic decision. That is why the pathway I took was an arranged marriage. The roots I trusted in where my family and over 30 years that trust has born fruit. Now imagine if I had taken the other fork in the road and trusted solely on my feelings. Since there was nothing good that would come from that pathway, the most loving thing one can do is to let that person go, never revealing what was in my heart. Today there are two sets of lives that are both successful in their respective roots. It was duly considered and based on pragmatic decision to be best course and way. Hurt on the front end so there could be happiness on the back end - but of course this is no guarantee. There is no guarantee that happiness cannot be stolen from us by the vagaries and twists and turns of life, but there is an improved chance of weighing up life and recognizing the odds. This is not possibility thinking, it is probability thinking.I took the right road, ensuring head was not greater than heart but that heart was not greater than head either. Love as a value judgement can be quite a horrible thing, but as a compass, it is altogether a different proposition. Even if you feel alone in that decision, the spirit of your father that is within you amounts to recollections of how he would see this. His legacy is now your legacy to live but the choices of that life are entirely yours. Nothing anyone can say, changes the relationship you personally have between the flow between your head and heart. Who knows what tomorrow brings but it is our vision to make.

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #5

#2
Devesh Bhatt I think if you have read my posts then you must know that I love myself and the people around me alot. I believe in giving we receive but that I don't see is applied in love between a man and a woman. The fear is of the unknown that is to come and not with the self. I've seen the most passionate couple separate and the most indifferent couples stick together. Thank you Mr Dev for reading and commenting. I would love to see what Deb\ud83d\udc1d Lange and many other lovely beBees think of the same.

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

4 years ago #4

Would you rather have unrequited love, love that is never reciprocated or never spoken as love to your beloved? This is a legitimate choice. One either goes all in or they don't. There are people in this world who did not and I am one of them. That kind of hurt is softened by reason and my reason was simple - not basing my life around a romantic decision. That is why the pathway I took was an arranged marriage. The roots I trusted in where my family and over 30 years that trust has born fruit. Now imagine if I had taken the other fork in the road and trusted solely on my feelings. Since there was nothing good that would come from that pathway, the most loving thing one can do is to let that person go, never revealing what was in my heart. Today there are two sets of lives that are both successful in their respective roots. It was duly considered and based on pragmatic decision to be best course and way. Hurt on the front end so there could be happiness on the back end - but of course this is no guarantee. There is no guarantee that happiness cannot be stolen from us by the vagaries and twists and turns of life, but there is an improved chance of weighing up life and recognizing the odds. This is not possibility thinking, it is probability thinking.I took the right road, ensuring head was not greater than heart but that heart was not greater than head either. Love as a value judgement can be quite a horrible thing, but as a compass, it is altogether a different proposition. Even if you feel alone in that decision, the spirit of your father that is within you amounts to recollections of how we would felt this. His legacy is now your legacy to live but the choices of that life are entirely yours. Nothing anyone can say, changes the relationship you personally have between the flow between your head and heart. Who knows what tomorrow brings but it is our vision to make.

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

馃悵 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #3

#1
Thank you Deb \ud83d\udc1d Helfrich You speak from the heart. Your comment is a perfect summary of the questions in my head.

Julio Angel 馃悵Lopez Lopez

Fear of the unknown, The impatience of what is to come. That is life, and we must enjoy the non-transferable experience. Regards.

Devesh 馃悵 Bhatt

Devesh 馃悵 Bhatt

4 years ago #1

You are already in love with a definition of love.Is this your understanding of love? I'm sure there is a lot more because your comments and posts reflect the fact that you think a lot about it. Love yourself more, understand yourself more, be deep in your imaginings of self, with each dive come out with something to celebrate. You will find the right match.Someone who likes to go deep :)

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