๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

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The Wait

So you sit and you tell yourself it's gonna be alright. You will get past this phase. It's a trying time in our life and we need to wait it out. You tell yourself that you are strong and this cloud of testingย will soon fade away and there will be sunrise. A new day filled with new opportunities will bring you the promises of life! It's on its way.

This is what I call "The Wait"

Now there is nothing wrong in having this motivational talk with ourselves. I do it time and again.ย  But what are we actually doing?

We mentally wait for the sun to actually rise. Remain in that position/situation that draws out more positive energy from us.Like a leech! ย It's like being in a funeral house and you can't do anything but mourn or feel sad for the loss of someone dear. It's like falling in a mud puddle and waiting for the rains to come and wash you off.

I think you get the message.ย 

The Wait was something man-made!ย 

We created this ! We need to plan and act the minute we find ourselves in "The Wait" phase of our life.ย 
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The Wait

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Identify :

See what's going wrong and why did you end up in that situation in the first place.ย 

From the ground you stand to the things around you; scrutinize the people around. ย Anyone or anything could have, lead you where you are.

Plan :

See what needs to change and what will move you from this place that you stuck in. The sun rises only in the morning you can't stay in sinking sand just because it's night time.

Develop:

Develop from the negatives. Capture the place you want to be in like a happy picture in your mind. Remember you were given this life because You are worth it!

Forgive :

Forgive yourself, the people and the things that put you in that situation. You don't want to carry that burden of unforgiveness in your heart. We need to leave behind allย the negativity that led you to this phase.

Experience:

Feel the feeling! Experience the feelings that will ariseย if you reach the place you want to be. Imagine and mentally experience that emotion even before it happens. It should be THE way to trigger your brain to think of only the positives that will lead you to the Goal. The place you want to be is just away from you, draw it closer mentally and emotionally.ย 

Move :

This is the most important part of "The Wait" phase. You need to analyzeย the results that will be a consequence of that move. The people and things that will be present in the new place. You need to know that there will be no hurt or damage created as a consequence of the move. Happiness and satisfaction should be the target.ย It should be a place where your self-value, self-determination and self-confidence increases. It should become Your sunshine place.

This buzz - ย dedicated to all the lovely people who doubt themselves time and again. As a result get into " The Wait" phase and end up waiting for the sunshine .ย 
I believeย we are the sun that needs to Shine to bring out that Sunshine in our lives.ย 
We are the colors to ourย rainbow.
Don't subject yourselfย to more pain, dissatisfaction as a result of failure to self-realization.ย 
Get moving all my amazing people out there !
I am my sunshine
I am my rainbow
I am my motivation
I am my All
I shine bright like the sun.Someone not so famous - Fatima Williams

Stay awesome! You bees are doing a fantabulous job buzzing and dancing around.


About me

I am a person who loves life and lives to enjoy every single minute given to me. I love to write and have got an opportunityย to do so now rarely ( Winks)

Thank you for reading this article. I welcome your comments. I follow some amazing people, from whom I draw my inspiration to write. If you find this article very useful, please share it with other members of your beBee / Social networks. "To share to learn" #beBee #beBeesforever

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๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

Paul Walters Thank you for bringing this buzz up. I needed to read this again for myself as my birthday approaches I need to refresh my mind on where I want to go :) Have an awesome weekend.

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#47
Solomon Jones None of us are crazy we were just led to that situation lol. Like they say you drive me crazy :)

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#48
Paul Walters It was a part of the curriculum or a project work I'm not sure while I was studying literature. We had to put ourselves in these character's and write about them. Loved studying literature. Thank you for taking the time to read this :)

Paul Walters

Paul Walters

4 years ago #36

I am not sure if you have had the pleasure of ever reading "Waiting For Godot" from the absurdist writer Samuel Beckett . It is essentially a play that revolves around two characters, Vladimir and Estragon who are waiting for the arrival of a character called Godot who never arrives. There is a line I always loved when Estragon sits in the ditch and says , " Waiting. Waiting, like sand, like leaves , like stones. waiting, Just waiting for waiting " Thanks madam , great post

Solomon Jones

Solomon Jones

4 years ago #35

Thank You Fatima. Now I know I'm not crazy. lol

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#44
Thank you Dean Owen Now that's a fantastic way of looking at this positively. Take pauses but don't wait. Euphoric Thinking ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—

Dean Owen

Dean Owen

4 years ago #33

I keep missing your articles! (Hurry beBee team, we need the sting function!) Definite difference between a wait and a pause. I do like to take my pauses once in a while (like taking a year off when I was 30, and then again when I was 40), but I hate waiting for life to happen. I don't have to wait long for your next article fortunately as I spotted it in my feed just now. See you there!

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#42
This great experience that you share with us Preston about being in the Wait phase and not taking any action is a lesson you learnt and then you adapt yourself to intiate the action needed. We need to move before its too late. We need to act. I love this phrase, "You need to Build your Plane while your Learning to Fly it.โ€ Building our Dream or achieving our Vision can have better results if we are in consistent action. I believe we need to be the drivers of our own car(Life) we don't want to be in the backseat and Wait cause we don't know to drive or end up in the wrong destination as the driver does not know what we want. Rather we learn and act and achieve. Thanks for the lovely contribution Preston. Enjoyed your comment thoroughly ๐Ÿ˜Š

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#40
Thank you dear CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

4 years ago #30

#39
If we are what we eat, we are also what we think and in this regard there is plenty of suggestions on how to get unstuck. The 7 things to remember when stuck by Allison Fallon serves as an example of the mental shifts available : 7 Things to Remember When You're Feeling Stuck http://allisonfallon.com/stuck/

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#38
Thank you CityVP Manjit It's an inevitable truth waiting is a part of our life. But I feel sometimes we get stuck in our cocoons afraid to fly and spread our beautiful wings. I remember a story of how an impatient person who saw a butterfly struggling to come out of the cocoon tried helping it and that eventually lead to the death of the butterfly. This waiting phase in the cocoon is sometimes required to collect the strength as you said that required to break out and fly. Transformation is the fruit of waiting but lets not wait too much. ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

4 years ago #28

#37
I welcome moments of life which are a cocoon. In modern culture we treat cocoon as a euphemism for prison, but it is not that, the caterpillar is not a prisoner of the cocoon, but a transformation in waiting and we are not butterflies, we are are more than a transformation that is no bigger than our thumb. Let me take the song by Milky Chance called "Cocoon" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ernVvrYH9vg so while his main lyric is "so lets go back to our cocoon" the context is still escape and not transformation. http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/milkychance/cocoon.html If we identify with this song, we identify with escape and pain rather than transformation and privacy. I do not offer this as a perspective to a single a person because my own cocoons are a source of personal liberation. I am not afraid of melancholy or sadness, for when grief comes I will participate in the process of grief, but when freedom comes, I can place that in a cocoon too - for that is a different kind of waiting. The best privacy is to close my eyes or enjoy time at home. Whether it is waiting such as Van Morrison "Days Like This" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3UUWkr4FUlo or I have to do what it is I must do for this thing called our work life and I can't open up my mind to you - there is something gestating in the waiting, there is something fermenting in the waiting, there is something good changing in the waiting. Waiting is a part of life.

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#36
Thanks Deb Lange. Yes the incubation time gives us time to feel the joy and happiness and outcome that is gained on the Move. Incubation is just a short phase and the egg needs to hatch ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š

Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Part 2 I have just responded to a comment by dear Sara Jacobovici to enjoy this great buzz and to contribute to the discussions.

Ali ๐Ÿ Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Dear Fatima Williams- you are a greater writer, thinker and communicator. I read your buzz comprehensively, with great interest and enjoyed the flow of your ideas your buzz. You leave me with so much to think about. I just request you to read my last buzz and the two co (Parts 1 and 2) and you shall realize what I mean. https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/conscious-and-subconscious-questions#c69 We are working on developing a formula for movement and we need your brain. I hope your time would allow you to visit. Your explanation of the wait time, steps how to deal with it and highlighting the Waiting Step as the critical step leave me with much to think about.

Sara Jacobovici

Sara Jacobovici

4 years ago #24

#31
Thanks for the tag Fatima Williams. I found your buzz intense. You cover much ground related to a challenging "place" to be. I appreciate your energy and insights. Thanks again.

Gert Scholtz

Gert Scholtz

4 years ago #23

Fatima Williams A most inspiring and uplifting post - thanks for sharing Fatima.

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

CcAli Anani ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š Tagging you all if thats ok ๐Ÿค”

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#29
It's my pleasure Graham Edwards Thank you for taking the time to read and comment.

Graham๐Ÿ Edwards

Graham๐Ÿ Edwards

4 years ago #20

Thanks for the inspiration Fatima Williams

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#23
Lisa Gallagher It's true and that's why we need self-realization to be at it's peak always. Life is a balancing act indeed. Thank you Lisa for reading and commenting :)

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#22
Lovely quote William VanDorin :)

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#20
Ahhh Deb Helfrich wrote today. I am on TOP of the world Today ! " I Flourish on beBee " That's the word I would like to use. Coming to the buzz I'm so happy you had something to take away from here that was my goal achieved. Stay Awesome and GET MOVING ( winks)

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#18
Thank you dear Aurorasa Sima

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#17
Thank you I'm happy you enjoyed reading this.

Lisa Gallagher

Lisa Gallagher

4 years ago #14

Such an honest piece Fatima Williams. I think we can all get stuck in the 'wait phase,' from time to time. We do need to draw on something stronger than ourselves at times or from deep within. I thought of one more thing, guilt can also put people into 'the wait.' If we hold on to self-guilt too long, it will immobilize us. Life sure is a balancing act!

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

4 years ago #13

This wait state mentioned here is something I think is also captured so well in the U2 song "stuck in a moment" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=emFUtuotHL4

Bill Stankiewicz, ๐Ÿ Brand Ambassador

Great post Fatima Williams

David B. Grinberg

David B. Grinberg

4 years ago #11

Beautifully written buzz, Fatima: "I believe we are the sun that needs to Shine to bring out that Sunshine in our lives. We are the colors to our rainbow." Well put!

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#15
Awww thats the sweetest thing I've heard today ! You made my day with that comment.๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ˜˜

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#11
Irene Hackett Thank you for reading and sharing your lovely thoughts

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#12
Thank you Franci Eugenia Hoffman ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—

Franci ๐ŸEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador

โ€œTry to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.โ€ โ€• Maya Angelou, Letter to My Daughter Fatima does this very well!

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#8
That's a good one Chris. Imagine waiting like that !

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#7
Thank you my sister Hugs :)

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#3
Thanks I wrote this on a metro ride to work ! I felt I needed to reinforce myself and the world around me

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#4
Thank you debasish majumder You and your words are sunshine by itself !

Mohammed Abdul Jawad

Mohammed Abdul Jawad

4 years ago #2

Aha..I find this post a fine summation of vivid aspirations, worthwhile actions and great expectations!

๐Ÿ Fatima G. Williams

#1
Very true isn't it Max. That's it " We get into this act of self- delusion. Our choices they play a major role on this one. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

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